In our last article, we saw how the
Syrophoenician woman got the healing of her daughter along with a commendation
from Christ because she refused to be offended and persisted till the end. We
will in this piece look more closely at offence and how to correctly relate
with it.
Offence is simply a cause or occasion
of stumbling or sin, any action or words spoken against your person that could
cause you to be displeased or angry. Hardly will a day go by that you will not
have a reason to be offended. As long as we are in this world, there will
always be a cause for displeasure, a reason to be angry. But the choice to be
angry or offended is yours and we will dwell more on this later, first what are
the consequences of getting offended.
As can be seen in Matt 15:22-30 (The
Syrophoenician woman’s story), taking offence can deny you of your progress or
desired goal. It distracts you and whittles away the energy needed for success.
You spend time and resources dwelling and reacting to an offence thereby
draining the present of the same resources. One of the greatest tool the enemy
is using in the church today is offences, you see brethren refusing to work
with each other because of years-old grudges.
Taking offences could also have ramifications far beyond the
immediate action. You will be surprised how many persons are in prison today
because of actions done in a fit of anger, they just had to react to a slight.
A momentary loss of control and years of consequences. There is no better
example than those of Simeon
and Levi, brothers-in-arm who got offended that their sister was raped and took
revenge on a whole city (Gen 34). Hear their fathers’ blessing (verdict seems
more apt) on them “Simeon and Levi are brethren;
instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. O my soul, come
not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou
united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged
down a wall. Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and
their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in
Israel” (Gen 49:5-7). For that singular act, their
generations were scattered abroad and the scepter of authority was given to
their younger brother. Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Eccl 7:9).
Third and
perhaps most importantly, taking offence denies you an opportunity to deepen
your love walk and thereby grow spiritually. Forgiveness, making allowance for
each other’s faults cannot be practiced in isolation (all by yourself). It is
through occasions of offences that God perfects your love walk and you become
mature. “You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the
open and shows its true colors. So don't try to get out of anything
prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not
deficient in any way” James 1:3-4 (MSG).
“But I
don’t have a choice than to be offended, what happened was really bad” you say.
While it is true that the act was despicable, your reaction to it is indeed
your choice. You can choose to forgive on the spot, or to call the attention of
the offender, or react angrily or to hold grudges. The choices are yours and
only yours to make. Don’t give control of your life to any other
human being. The fact that someone can get you to react in anger regardless of
the situation is proof that you are not in control. Your life as a Christian is to react with love every time. You rely on
the strength of the Holy Spirit within you to still love despite the hurt. Yes,
you might make this decision with tears in your eyes, but you do it knowing you
are following Christ.
Clothe
yourselves therefore, as God's own chosen ones (His own picked representatives),
[who are] purified and holy and
well-beloved [by God Himself, by
putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind
feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is
tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with
good temper]. Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has
a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each
other; even as the Lord has [freely]
forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].
And above all these [put on]
love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together completely
in ideal harmony]. Col 3:12-14 (AMP)
In
conclusion, you should be willing and ready to forgive as many times as
possible as long as the offender truly repents of the deed. The lord Jesus said
“Pay
attention and always be on your guard [looking out for one another]. If
your brother sins (misses the mark), solemnly tell him so and reprove him, and
if he repents (feels sorry for having sinned), forgive him. And even if he sins
against you seven times in a day, and turns to you seven times and says, I
repent [I am sorry], you must forgive him (give up resentment and
consider the offense as recalled and annulled).” Luke 17:3-4. While offences are perpetually thrown at you,
don’t take it.
If you have not made Jesus Christ your Lord and saviour, then life
here is anchorless and eternity is bleak. We urge you, don’t wait another
moment. Make up your mind and say this prayer:
“Dear God, I ask you to forgive me all my sins and make me anew. I
believe that Jesus died for me and you raised him up on the third day, I
confess that He is Lord now and forever. I accept your son, Jesus Christ as my
Lord and Saviour.”
Congratulations! Now that you are born again, look for a Bible
believing church to attend that you might know what he has provided for
you.
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